Building self-confidence and self-esteem in mentees

Self-confidence; a feeling of trust in your own abilities and judgement. Self esteem; knowing and believing your worth. These two important qualities aren’t high in foster children on account of their harsh backgrounds, but there are ways to get them back on the right track.


Enrol in extra-curriculars

Martial arts classes are an excellent way for kids to develop self-esteem, as well as confidence in their abilities. Taekwondo, jiu-jitsu, karate, aikido; all of these and more demand discipline and respect.

For decades, martial arts have been used as a tool to help keep kids off the street. They teach them not only to respect their elders, but to have patience and to socialise with other children. Going up the ranks in martial arts boosts kid’s self-esteem because if they can tackle challenges in the dojo, they can also handle those in the outside world.

Nurture their talents

Despite their objections, foster kids do have talents. They might write poems or songs, play an instrument, play chess, or write code.

Encourage them to do what they love. You can see the sparkle in their eyes when they talk about drawing comics or how they went at footy practice. It’s not ethical for mentors to buy gifts for their mentees. But encourage them to save some money for what they want or find a way for them to feel more confident showing their talent. Point out competitions, hobby groups, or  events they can participate in.


Make them feel safe

Foster kids come from unfortunate backgrounds. They have witnessed things children never should. Violence, drugs, and abuse are just some of the situations they’ve escaped from. They deserve to feel safe and pursue their dreams.

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